See the problem is environment, your grandparents, society and their way of seeing things. It’s never about your parents at least in your case I don’t think so. Limited access to information and knowledge and honestly speaking most of the people are brainwashed by their environment. For example take a flea and put it in a jar and close the lead, even tho the flea can jump much higher than the jar after like 1-2 days the flea will forget that it can jump higher than the jar so even if you open the lead, they will keep jumping inside the jar. It’s a trap. Your parents fell for the trap and I honestly don’t think blaming them is the correct way. It’s how you view things that matters, how you understand each other that matters.