LOOSING SEXUAL AFFECTION FOR MY SPOUSE, WHAT DO I DO?

Sometimes when we feel we know all there is to know, or that the relationship has developed to where it can develop, the sense of needing to push forward or the motivation to continue investing becomes much less. This can attribute to the loss in desire. Also at times we as partners may feel we've lost a part of ourselves that made us once feel like we were exuberant for life. Breaking routine and inviting new ones helps us to refresh our daily life, which turns into a new habit that just might spark a new conversation into something more. Communication is key in any relationship and the duo dance is definitely a conversation.

Affection in marriage is the most important thing that keeps the marriage alive and feelings can fade becuase of these factors:

1: cheating
2:lack of responsibility by the husband
3:Abuse (any type)
4:Lack of sexual satisfaction

If you expereinced the above, then you need councelling, sit down and try to solve the issue but if the problem persists, depends with your age but if you are in yout thirtys, i dont see any point of you staying.

This can honestly happen to anyone of us . The key is to be real with yourself and try to understand what is truly missing , what exactly you are in need of . What expectations do you have that are not being met . Once you understand what you are looking for & what you want in order to spark up that flame again .. you can sit down with your partner and share your feelings and ideas . Most of the time it gets dry in bed when both are too tired , over worked & too busy .. try to see what your partner is comfortable with , try to bring in some new things to the bed , music , dress up , bring food into it , bring toys , & change the setting . Be more open & with express what you want & like .. there’s much more to this ..

Here are some suggestions for what to do if you're losing sexual affection for your spouse:

Communicate openly and honestly with your spouse about how you're both feeling. Have a caring conversation to understand each other's perspectives.

Seek marriage counseling. A counselor can help uncover any underlying issues and guide you both in improving intimacy, communication, and connection.

Schedule regular date nights to spend quality one-on-one time together without distractions. Rekindle emotional intimacy.

Try new activities together, like taking a class, joining a club, or taking a trip. Shared experiences can bring you closer.

Spice things up in the bedroom by being spontaneous, experimenting with new locations and positions, or exploring each other's desires through sensual massages.

Ensure you're both fulfilling each other's emotional needs for affection, validation, and support outside the bedroom too.

Check your physical and mental health. Stress, depression, body image issues, etc. can impact libido. Make self-care a priority.

Compromise and meet each other half-way when it comes to intimacy frequency and types of activities. Don't point fingers.

Consider seeing a sex therapist individually or as a couple if needed to address any dysfunctions.

Communication is key. With understanding and effort, you can rekindle your sexual bond over time. But don't force anything; go at your own pace.

Communicate how you feel with your partner. Be tactful as this is a very sensitive topic. Make sure you use wisdom. As you may hurt your partners feelings. Book a call with me and i will help you to express your feelings in the most diplomatic way.

It's important to openly communicate with your partner about your feelings and work together to find ways to rekindle the passion in your relationship.

Hello! This is actually a very-common-problem, I would posit; and is one of which to not feel ashamed. There is many a person whom finds themselves escaping by reading novellas, or perusing certain adult media and genres. It is never too late to properly communicate your true feelings. In my view, adultery is the only legitimate reason for divorce, although, obviously, we all, sin and fall short. Therefore, you should not enjoin yourself to a relationship whereby either of you might feel, that adultery is the only way-out, for that is incredibly unhealthy. Logically, you might only find yourselves spiralling against each-other, and being secretive and vindictive, even harbouring resentments. It is only natural, perhaps, to age; to have lessen, our libido, perhaps. We aren't the people we used to be, although many remain unchangeable. Be open and forthright; pursue to what you feel, or you know, you are attracted. Let the other party, your partner, your spouse, your significant-other, know what they mean to you; and that you wouldn't be having said discussion had they been irrelevant or meaningless to you; and, God forbid. But that this is more of a you issue, than one of or for they. Remind them how beautiful they are; what with which you fell in love. However--if this truly be the case, the following--let them know you're uncomfortable with the habits or options you've found yourself doing, or having faced; and that, for the betterment of both of your souls, does the other person agree that, in order to stem a possible tide of possible adultery, even; that you stop, say, utilising "even" adult materials that have somewhat even, replaced your spouse? That you perhaps both stop, therefore, a potential slide in to adultery whereby either of you tire or get bored, whereby it will have been too late? To tell anybody to divorce is quite the sin--however, what I've mentioned, is the only thing justifiable for one, in my opinion. And, so. In order to prevent even adultery from possibly happening, or especially if it's already happened, y'all-two need to at least sit-down and converse about these exact same things and be very honest with the other. Attraction is either there or it is not. Do not, in my opinion, even try to even obsess on the "why," here; this, will do nobody any favours. God Bless.